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© Stalking, Excessive Monitoring, Violation of Boundaries

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(C) Stalking, Excessive Monitoring, Violation of Boundaries

One of the most disturbing tactics of psychological violence and harassment in the workplace is the excessive monitoring, stalking or the scrutiny of the target(s)'s every move in the workplace . Bully(s) "watch you like a hawk" whether it is excessive monitoring, stalking, preying, following, intruding, tracking, watching, focusing. They use predatory behaviours similar to hunting, preying to find out personal information, know resources, and are very aware of talents so they can use, abuse, copy, exploit to benefit themselves. They use coercive control to control your movement and restrict areas or people you may come into contact with. They limit your relationships sometimes by restricting movement. But other times by gossiping , bad mouthing the person or ostracising you.

They climb the ladder on the back of those they prey. Watching, waiting, prowling, preparing to pounce, grab or degrade you without warning but with enough brutal force to devastate you. They plot and plan to take you down. A bully (s) intention is to destroy or exploit your career, reputation and relationships. Perpetrators of psychological violence set out with intention to destroy the very thing you love and what is important to you. They will manipulate every situation to set you up to fail and watch and gloat as you fall prey to their trap of horror. And if that doesn't work or there is nothing else they can take, they will then seek to harm or destroy the target(s) character through psychological violence and harassment which leads to abuse whether emotionally,

morally or financially. They will literally violate, steal or copy your work. Bully (s) have no concept of boundaries and will intrude , trespass and violate another persons space and identity. Perpetrators of abuse rarely question their behaviour and the adverse consequences of their behaviour. There is always a fear or threat of violence with repeated unwanted behaviour that is malicious, frightening and distressing.

This is a violation of your Health, Safety, Wellbeing and Dignity in the Workplace.

1. What is stalking? Stalking | Stalking in Ireland

Stalking is a pattern of fixated, obsessive, unwanted and repeated behaviour that causes you to feel distressed or scared. Stalking can happen with or without a fear of violence. Stalking can be perpetrated by anyone. There are a number of behaviours which may constitute stalking. Sometimes, stalking is confused with harassment - but they are significantly different. Many elements of harassment may amount to stalking if they are fixated, obsessive, unwanted and repeated. ​ If you or someone you love is in danger, call 999 or 112.

2. What are the signs of stalking?

Stalking behaviours can typically be broken up into the following categories: unwanted behaviours, threats and abuse, malicious communications and reputational damage. ​ Stalking behaviour tends to be F.O.U.R - fixated, obsessive, unwanted and repeated. If you are experiencing one or more of the following behaviours, you may be a victim of stalking. Remember - stalking happens with and without the fear of violence. If you are concerned for your safety, we advise you to call 999 or 112. Unwanted behaviours

  • Loitering around your home

  • Spying or tracking your movements (online, using technology or in person)

  • Following

  • Making unwanted approaches to you (at home, work, in public)

  • Making unwanted approaches to friends, family or colleagues

  • Interfering with or damaging your property, breaking into your home

Threats or abuse

  • Threats to harm you or those close to you

  • Threats to harm themselves around you

  • Physical attacks or attempted physical attacks

  • Sexual violence or attempted sexual violence

Malicious communication

  • Sending inappropriate letters, faxes, texts, WhatsApps, emails or social media messages

  • Making inappropriate or malicious telephone calls to you

  • Sending unwanted gifts

Reputational damage

  • Distributing malicious material about you (e.g. flyers, web-sites, posters, newspaper ads)

  • Engaging in inappropriate or malicious social media contacts (e.g. Twitter, Facebook, Instagram)

  • Initiating false legal action against you

  • Making false complaints to agencies

  • Taking pictures/recordings of you without your consent

  • Sharing private images of you that are of a very personal nature (e.g. nude images, sexual images)

​ If you think that you are being stalked, you can take our stalking assessment - 'Am I being stalked?' which will provide you with more information. In an emergency please call 999 or 112. ​ ​Is stalking a crime in Ireland ? - New system of court orders to restrain stalking behaviour and protect victims as part of new Bill from Minister McEntee (

New system of court orders to restrain stalking behaviour and protect victims as part of new Bill from Minister McEntee From Department of Justice Published on 4 August 2022 Last updated on 5 September 2022

Courts will be able to issue civil restraining orders against stalkers as part of a new Bill from the Minister for Justice, Helen McEntee. These orders do not require a criminal prosecution and are easier for victims to obtain. Minister McEntee has secured government approval for the Criminal Justice (Miscellaneous Provisions) Bill 2022. The Bill will now be brought before the Oireachtas and is expected to become law in the Autumn. The wide-ranging Bill will also increase the maximum sentence for assault causing harm from five years to 10 years, allow life sentences for conspiracy to murder, make stalking and non-fatal strangulation standalone offences, and expand the existing harassment offence.

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